Thursday, February 10, 2011

do cheaters ever change?

why are all your comics so sad? me: they' aren't. they have a lot of breakups and heartbreaks. me: but, it isn't sad. just shows it wasn't meant to be.

i used to have issues and i am not referring to comics. :) as far as i can remember, a vast majority of my past boyfriends have all cheated on me. sometimes i knew, but most of the time, i didn't.

the worse feeling i remember was thinking ok, he cheated on me. then seeing who they cheated with and realizing it wasn't just one, but a queue. for awhile, i thought all guys cheat and if they didn't, they thought about it. for awhile, i thought something was wrong with me. i needed to change. i should do this or less of that, etc. having a guy make me feel insecure when i was already so uncertain of myself made me so timid and frustrated. i remember crying in my room and listing things wrong with myself. i remember thinking how each of these ex boyfriends found some way to put it on me as if it was my fault they cheated. the funny thing is, not one of these exs admitted to cheating on me. it was always through a friend or me walking in on them cheating or the next flavor of the month telling me. i think i would have at least respected them a bit if they just fessed up. but none did.

at the time, my heart felt as if it would never heal. it did and i am happy with love and have a valentine, but for everyone out there who doesn't, realize that not all boys are evil or clueless. i don't want anyone to feel sad on valentines day because it is a lame holiday. don't mope and think of your breakups, heartbreaks, etc. instead, know that it really is their loss. i never believed it when friends told me that, but it is true. and know that those ex boyfriends will realize it and are kicking themselves to know they messed up.

and with that, i wanna say no one cares about valentines day, but we all do care about love. i will and still remain in love with love. cheesy as it is. but, i am no proponent of pink and red. ew. who thought of that colour combo?

14 comments:

JustSayYes said...

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JUNI said...

nice blog :)

sailors sing said...

"do cheaters ever change" mixtape is in the making! you, me, a record player, a cassatte deck and a cassette tape. with a sharpie and possibly some cute stickers. <3

Anonymous said...

OK. I'm worse than I thought. I read more. You understand the ego-leveling of law school. You like poutine and Korean food. You know that having an intern can mean more and not less work.

Why do we humans believe there is a (rebuttable) presumption that those we encounter are less human than we are and it is therefore goodly to be mean to them?

There. I have had my life lesson of the day. Thank you for indulging.

Dene' said...

I have to agree, i love love. So much. I have been on both sides of cheating and i had to learn alot of hard lessons to respect love the way I do. No matter what happends, though, you cannot lose the will to love. Love is the most powerful force on the planet.

Peachyyy said...

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Love your blog :)

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Luvlylife.com said...

yes they do... its all about time...

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Mohd.Nor (Nor _Saribun) said...

I love your blog ... life must appreciate the love ..
I love to all who loved me ...

Tycoon said...

It can go both ways really, every single one of my girlfriends have cheated on me...It is painful and I have cheated back, but growing up and learning from those experiences has really made me a better person. I can say that I have learned from my mistakes, but you're right every guy will at least think about cheating in every relationship that he is in. Girls are the same way :P

wong said...

i didn't read the content of the post, cause I'm super duper sleepy right now, cheater will change, I was a cheater, I cheated on my own girl, but well.. I be honest to her, i did asked her to leave me, but she didn't, she told me that she believes I'll change for her, at that moment, I though it's impossible. But right now I can tell you that, cheaters will change, I'm one of them. anyhow , nice blog

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